Horrible 2015, but thank God for family and friends

Misery loves company, they say.  I had two devastating losses in 2015 one after another (as if one was not bad enough) and thought I would die just from the pain.

My brother sent an elderly relative to come and be with me in Austria.  The circumstances were so bad that I wanted to resign and return home to be with those who loved me.  My older relative who had come and a close friend in Zambia urged me not to resign when I told them of my decision to do so.  I told them that I was OK financially even if I did not find a job for a couple of years, but they stressed that money was not the issue.  They said the problem was that I would have too much time on my hands and keep on crying when everyone started carrying on with their lives.  My relative said she was going to stay with me until I felt strong enough to be on my own.  I listened to their advice, though with quite a bit of grumbling.  I am glad I listed because I was overwhelmed and could/did not reason.

Other family members and friends back home sent messages of support the whole time and even after.  Friends from DC and other places also reached out to me.  The Zambian community in Vienna rallied around me and my relative was comforted because she knew that I had a ‘family’ that cared about me in a strange land.  In fact some of the Zambian men rebuked me for ‘acting alone’ and said I could call upon them any time.  I really felt loved. I had not been an active member of the community before, but became quite active after my losses as I started seeing them as a family.

When I looked back a couple of years later when my emotions had quietened down, I realized how nasty (for lack of a better word) I was during that period.  It was not because I just wanted to be that way, but because I would get overwhelmed with even the smallest of tasks and had no control over my responses. I am grateful that people were understanding and did not retaliate.

I am grateful for my family and friends.  They supported me, put their lives on hold while they comforted and availed themselves to me.  I never knew the importance of loved ones until I needed them at my low point.

Thank God for family and friends.


14 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. anotherday2paradise
    Apr 11, 2018 @ 19:53:42

    So glad you found the support and love you needed, ZL. Take care. xx


  2. Tiny
    Apr 04, 2018 @ 17:52:19

    Amen to all that! I had four losses last year (husband, father, uncle and sister of my brother-in-law) and would not have survived without support from family and dear friends. I stopped working for 7 months, but now I am back and feeling much better. We need to experience the love of our family and be part of the community for support. Glad you are doing much better now.


  3. Joanne Sisco
    Apr 04, 2018 @ 11:19:56

    It’s taken me a long time to truly understand the meaning behind the proverbial silver lining in the cloud. The rallying of family and friends was your silver lining 💕


  4. Mags
    Apr 02, 2018 @ 21:53:29

    Those of us that have loving family and friends that stand by us in our time of need are so blessed. Thank you for stopping by my blog and commenting on the wren and squirrel that was very kind of you. Bless you for your work in helping others.


  5. leggypeggy
    Mar 30, 2018 @ 22:53:36

    So good to know you have reached a calmer and happier state of mind. Family and friends are wonderful and I’m also glad yours were there to support you.


  6. Colline
    Mar 30, 2018 @ 21:56:42

    Having family and friends support us during our time of need is the best gift a person can have.


  7. Jill Weatherholt
    Mar 30, 2018 @ 21:29:38

    Amen! It’s comforting to know that family and good friends will stick by us even when get a little cranky. At times of stress and feeling overwhelmed, we’re often not ourselves.


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